2). Think about the filters you use to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. What characteristics or behaviors lead you to judge others as unattractive? Does Duck's theory make sense to you? Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?
There are many filters that I use to eliminate people from consideration as a potential partner. The major characteristic that my romantic partner has to possess is confidence. Confidence affects everything in a person including physical attractiveness because it affects their behaviors as well. For example, a person who is too clingy and seems too sensitive at early stages of a relationship is very unattractive.
Duck’s theory makes sense to me. The part of the theory I liked the most was the final stage, grave-dressing phase. It states that each party determines the meaning of their time together. They decide what to take away from their relationship. This is the phase that takes the longest to me. Relational dissolution or break-ups are messy and sometimes the lesson you get is blurred. Like the text states, its an important phase because it helps you in your next relationship.
I have definitely eliminated someone through preinteraction cues which include nonverbal impressions. We have learned that nonverbal cues include physical beauty or dress. I need to be attracted to someone to consider them as a potential romantic partner. I do think that attraction can grow through a relationship.
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Hi Jane Jolie,
ReplyDeleteI agree that confidence is an important characteristic in a romantic partner because it affects how the person acts, reacts, and their decision making process. I have seen romantic relationships fail because at least one partner was insecure. Insecurities of self, beauty, etc. can ruin a relationship because the insecure person is always going to seek affirmation from the other partner and that is just unfair. The other partner can only do so much to make the insecure person feel secure. Confidence can be gained through several kinds of practices and its all dependent on the individual not the other partner. I feel that these kinds of relationships fail because it is imbalanced and unfair. But you are right about how confidence is an important characteristic for individuals to have and that's good that its one of your filters.
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Hello,
ReplyDeleteI agree confidence is an important part of the filtering process. I know an important factor for me was that the person be physically attractive which I think is very bad on my part, but that was what initially led me to meet my husband. I thought he was hot so I wanted to get to know him and use my filters during our initial conversation to feel it out. The next most important thing to me was education and intelligence. My husband was in college and had worked his way up with his company over the past 6 years. I wanted someone who according to my filter could contribute to the relationship equal to myself.
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